In May, my daughter came home from college, dumped her jeep load of clothing and stuff in her bedroom, packed a large suitcase and went to New York City to begin a job. All fall her room sat stuffed with piles, boxes and storage containers. I felt suffocated every time I opened her bedroom door!
Over Thanksgiving my husband suggested we re-carpet her room. I selected the carpet and set the January 11, 2013 installation date. Over Christmas our daughter had to sort through her belongings. I taped four large trash bags to the railing outside her room and labeled them: Trash, Donate, Consign and Store in Attic.
With the Donate and Consign bags full, her room began to open up and breathe. Removing things from her room and taking them out of the house has literally untangled knots inside my body and inspired me to clear some of my own clutter.
People say my home is pretty clutter-free. Shows you what people know. In truth I have lots of clutter a clutter like everybody else. I am just good at hiding it. Now I want to talk the process of de-cluttering. Yes, it’s trilling to find possessions that are taking up space and not paying any rent! And yes it’s great to throw those freeloaders out!
However there are always the “in-betweeners.” Should they go or should they stay? These decisions cause a new kind of stress. Who do the “in-betweeners” belong to? My husband? My kids? I have rule that I must take these things to their rightful owner and ask them to decide. This is called “shifting the stress.”
Back to my things. I am amazed at what I have found: a pair of outdated eye glasses, an incense holder, a ukulele instruction book. I don’t even have a ukulele! I also found eleven packs of glossy photo paper that came with my computer ink. I don’t print my own photos. So many outdated objects were taking up space on bookshelves and in drawers and not only clogging up my house but also clogging up my mind.
Less Stuff = More Energy
As I move unused items out of my house, I find I have more energy. I feel so good that each day I look forward to sorting through a drawer, or a closet or a pile of papers to see what I can eliminate. Because we are connected to our possessions, as I make changes on the outside, energy shifts inside of my body affecting my emotions.
Tune into Your Space, Tune into Yourself
How do I know the right time to stop sorting through things and weeding out the clutter? I notice that I feel wired and tired. Sometimes I feel tightness in my throat. When I get to this point, I know I need to leave my space and take a break.
Find Balance between Activity and Rest
Today, turned my back on a pile of paper I was sorting and drove to conservation land in town to cross country ski. The snow-covered field and clear blue sky gave me the feeling of spaciousness I needed for energy to settle inside me as a result of making changes to my surroundings. I want to bring this same spaciousness and clarity and spiritual uplifting back into my house.
I am sure you have your own ukulele instruction book taking up space and not paying any rent in your space. I know you’ll feel better when you get some of your freeloaders out. Feel the emotional relief!